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TOPIC: Emotionally unstable personality disorder

Emotionally unstable personality disorder 2 months 2 weeks ago #175954

Mrs Hurtyback wrote:
Hi Walker,

I'm glad you are feeling a bit more positive now.

If this is relating to a PIP claim the assessor will not be interested in any comments about your ability to work. It is entirely possible to be in receipt of enhanced rates of PIP and also work full time!

Hi Mrs Hurtyback

It's me miserable that was asking, not walker.

Thank you, I am trying to keep positive.
That makes sense with pip, I forgot people can have that awarded and still work.
I guess that helped for my esa claim.
I will just concentrate on telling them how my day to day life is affected by my mental health problems.

I am wondering if they will believe me that I don't sit here all day watching tv, I don't watch any of the soaps or anything, don't use social media, no Facebook etc even though I am only 35.

My depression just keeps me sitting here doing nothing, I have no will to do anything, B&W is the only thing I read and post on and that's to try to keep me sane!

I don't know how I can prove this to them, cmht know that I just sit here doing nothing but I've not heard anything back from them since I had my home assessment, wish I had my support worker allocated so she could come with me :(
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Emotionally unstable personality disorder 2 months 2 weeks ago #175957

Sorry Miserable, I got a bit confused there :blush:

All you can do is tell them how it is, I have not yet found a way of making someone believe me :(
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Emotionally unstable personality disorder 2 months 2 weeks ago #175970

Mrs Hurtyback wrote:
Sorry Miserable, I got a bit confused there :blush:

All you can do is tell them how it is, I have not yet found a way of making someone believe me :(

No worries, it's easily done.
It would be nice if you can make someone believe you, I've always been fobbed off in the past, told to get over it, snap out of it, you can't be that bad etc etc and that's from family!

I'll just explain as fully as I can, am I allowed to write everything down to take with me to the medical?
I will forget everything and won't answer fully, I panic too much and can't think straight even when going to the Dr, which is the only place I go.

Ugh I really hate having these mental health issues!! It really really sucks :(
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Emotionally unstable personality disorder 2 months 2 weeks ago #175974

Yes, you can take notes with you. Explain as you have done to us - that you get muddled when anxious - why you are using them.
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Emotionally unstable personality disorder 2 months 2 weeks ago #175977

Mrs Hurtyback wrote:
Yes, you can take notes with you. Explain as you have done to us - that you get muddled when anxious - why you are using them.

Brilliant! Thank you so much! That really puts my mind at ease :)

I will start writing my notes now before I forget :S
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Emotionally unstable personality disorder 2 months 2 weeks ago #175992

hi again
I just wanted to say how I always have to write things down too
I didn't do that at my assessment and when she asked 'how does your illness effect you' I couldn't even remember that!!
although I had written it all extensively on my PIP form

in the week leading up to my tribunal I spent hours and hours and hours making notes, just anything and everything that came to mind that effect how I live
a whole page just on what happens when I panic
another on all the stupid things that prevent or delay me getting out of the door
it breaks my heart when I read it all because I feel pathetic

but I found that the process meant that at the tribunal - although I had pages of notes with me - I actually remembered most of what I wanted to say

I think it is harder at the assessment - because they have a ton of things they have to ask and they are typing away all the time it seems

all you can do is be yourself and be honest with them
it is a horrible process, I found it demeaning and humiliating (the assessment, NOT the tribunal)
but you deserve support and this is the only way to get it
so stay strong
x
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