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TOPIC: DLA - not recieving required help from partner

DLA - not recieving required help from partner 6 years 10 months ago #14775

i suffer from fibromyalgia and am in the process of applying for DLA - and yes it is extremely unpleasant. however i am having real problems with help i need against the help i get bit.

i live with a partner who is supposed to be my carer - i get income support as unfit for work and he is not required to look for work on the grounds on caring for me - the problem is he doesnt.

to cut a long story short in the autumn the house was in such a state that social services and the police are prosecuting for neglect and my son is now living with his father (his 3 brothers were already there) at the time of arrest i was 3 days out of plaster after breaking my leg in the summer and spending 7 weeks non weight bearing which meant i had been able to do nothing around the house for 7 weeks.

what i want to know is should i use this as evidence that i cannot keep the house at a basic level of hygiene (i do stuggle with this even without the broken leg and do have a history of social services intervention). OK it will show beyond a shadow of a doubt i cannot do this but at the same time i live with an individual who is supposed to do it for me.

needless to say my other reasonable needs dont get met either but as a cranky individual i would keep finding my own way to do things anyway even if someone was willing to do them.
Last Edit: 6 years 10 months ago by Steve Donnison.
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Re:DLA - not recieving required help from partner 6 years 10 months ago #14780

  • indieames
I could be wrong, but as far as DLA is concerned housework is irrelevent.

On a personal note, I sympathise. I had to throw my partner/carer out in the summer because he wouldn't care for my physical needs, although he was great on the mental needs (I have ME and bipolar, and get DLA for the bipolar). The flat was in a right state, and in the end a couple of people I know on an internet forum came round for a couple of hours and sorted it! Are you sure it's worth having your parter stay? I was £100 pm better off when mine left, plus not having to feed him, pay electric for when he was up till 5am watching tv, and support his gambling habit. Maybe getting rid of him would mean you could afford a carer? I've also been awarded a carer from social services for a few hours a week, when it's all set up I'll be in a much better position than I was with him. Sorry if I'm speaking out of turn.

I also think it's shocking that social services can prosecute because of the state of your house, but refuse to offer any help with housework!
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Re:DLA - not recieving required help from partner 6 years 10 months ago #14781

Hi Estelle,

I think the only advice we can give is that you need to be scrupulously honest and accurate in any claim you make and to keep the DWP informed of any change of circumstances.

Bear in mind that you cannot get an award of DLA because of an inability to do housework itself. But if it provides evidence of the difficulties you have with things like standing and moving around then it may well be relevant to your claim.

Steve
Nothing on this board constitutes legal advice - always consult a professional about specific problems
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Re:DLA - not recieving required help from partner 6 years 10 months ago #14783

  • Jim Allison
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Hi Estelle,

Sorry to hear of your predicament.

However, as moderators we cannot offer advice to individuals about a specific benefits problem under any circumstances. To give accurate and reliable advice about a specific benefits problem, we'd need to know a great deal about your income, savings, health, household arrangements and more. To give advice without all this information would seriously risk misinforming you.

This an extract from the Spotlights area of the forum thread 'PLEASE READ BEFORE POSTING'

As Moderators our area of expertise is in relation to disability living allowance, attendance allowance, the personal capability assessment used in connection with incapacity benefits and the work capability assessment used in connection with employment and support allowance. So those are the only subjects on which we can provide reliable information.

However, you need to bear in mind that boards like this can never provide advice to individual claimants about their specific circumstances, for that you need to use an advice agency. All we can offer is general information about how the system works.

You need to contact your local CAB, or similar advice agency.

Alternatively, you could contact Community Legal Advice who can give you initial advice and put you in touch with a local adviser.

I'm sorry I cannot be more help.

Jim
PLEASE READ THE SPOTLIGHTS AREA OF THE FORUM REGULARLY, OTHERWISE YOU MAY MISS OUT ON IMPORTANT INFORMATION. Nothing on this board constitutes legal advice - always consult a professional about specific problems
Last Edit: 6 years 10 months ago by Jim Allison. Reason: Corrected link.
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Re:DLA - not recieving required help from partner 6 years 10 months ago #14803

thanks for the replies - i posted because i could have sworn i read a bit someone that mentioned the "house being at a minimum level of hygiene" however if i did read it i cannot now find where having gone through the DLA form and the B&W guide - so it was probably me getting confused again.

still does anyone know how much attention is paid to the state of the house especially if there is someone present who is supposed to be looking after it. the house is horrendous and i am worried that if there is a medical visit the doctor will just see the mess and come to the conclusion that i am a lazy slob who just cant be bothered. i did read on another thread something about someone being refused DLA cause the house was too tidy - how important is the state of the house?
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