re medical coming up

Yes I am trying to persuade my daughter to come with me but if not. I will if necessary ask a friend who i'm reluctant to ask as he took his partner who was my best friend to an ESA medical at the same place and she died about 6 months ago so not sure he could handle the memories as he's still coming to terms with her death. I have no other friends as my husband died after a long illness and i found out who my friends were then when i needed help. Havent managed to make any new friends as i cant go out and have ME/CFS

Well medical is tomorrow didnt sleep last nite hope i dont oversleep tomorrow, will be just my luck so sorting out what I need to take and wondered if u could tell me what happens if u dont take a birth certificate, passport or driving licence.

I have got a my atos letter, dwp letter, gas bill, boiler service letter, rent increase letter, HC2 certificate and council letter about my postal vote.

I never take birth certificate or debit card out which is what they told me to take as i'm frightened of losing them and dont possess a driving licence or passport. Are they likely to refuse to see me do u think and what will happen then?

Good news is my daughters partner is taking me only dont know if if anyone is going in with me and hope that if i go in on my own i'm not at a disadvantage, coming to the conclusion i should say nothing and just make sure they have my GP report as if I'm on my own I can see me losing it , I could either get upset and start crying or get angry and tell them what i think of them, hoping the latter doesnt happen as I know then I will have blown it. I'm sorry frightened of saying or doing the wrong thing. I keep reading over my friends medical report and can see where she went wrong with things she said, which have been misinterpreted, and I think i'll ask the person doing the medical to write their name and qualification on the Atos medical letter.

Just trying to keep thinking about what my late husband would be saying to me to keep me calm and hope he is watching over me, he was a god send at my last medical about 12 years ago which did have a positive out come.

hi well made it to the medical in croydon. Trust me to have to walk down the corridor to the furthest room away.
A nurse conducted the medical, I thought they were supposed to wear name badges?
All she said was that her name was shona and she was a nurse, asked me if I understood why I was there, I asked if she had the the medical report I had sent to wembley, she hadnt got it but luckily I had a copy of it with me, she put this in my file and said she would look at it after the medical. She asked me how I got there explained that my daughter and partner had bought me. She was very offhand and told me that she also had an irritable bowel but it didnt affect her in the way it affects me, so i just replied that we were all different and affected in different ways. She certainly didnt come over to me as being friendly quite the opposite she seemed hostile and I felt like a naughty child, by this time I'm wanting to go home I've got my head going round and feeling confused and sobbing uncontrollably into my coat which I hugged all through the medical, as she seemed to be homing in on specific health problms, ME, Irritable bowel, incontinence problem, the breast cancer which gave me the opportunity I thought to bring in the physical problems I have and why I've got them, she asked me nothing about agrophobia, panick or anxiety attacks, worn disc or arthritic knee. She never seemed to stop typing.
Then out of the blue she says the medical is over as its obviously upsetting me, that she wasnt there to be sympathetic to which i replied but u havent looked at my medical report, to which she replied that she could keep me there longer and do other things with me but didnt want to upset and keep me further, to which i can recall saying something along the lines that she would write whatever she wanted to anyway and she said that I shouldnt make assumptions and should hear a decision within 9 weeks.
Once we left the room there seemed to be a softer side to her, Jekyle and hyde I think to myself.
She told me walking back down the corridor that I could claim travel expenses when i said that i didnt have bank details with me she told me that I could be sent a giro (they dont tell u that beforehand)
Daughter walks towards me as I get nearer the door and I attempt to compose myself (as my daughter is very protective of me and doesnt like people upsetting me) and fail, daughters asking what they've said or done to me to make me so upset I cant get a word out. Eventually I manage to stop crying and tell her, she wants to go and have words with the bullying nurse I have to tell her not to and that I just want to go home.
Its over and Its definitely an experience I wouldnt be in a hurry to repeat my last medical was so different, but I'm glad i didnt take my daughter in the room with me she doesnt like bullies.
Now I'm left wondering will she write and say the medical had to be halted and therefore not completed meaning i'll lose my benefit or had she heard and seen enough to realise that I'm not fit for work.
Now a long stressful wait up to 9 weeks till i find out.

Hey from my own personal experience my ESA medical last June was cut short as I also was distressed, and in my personal circumstance i remained in the SG, hope you get news soon

thanku sarahjane i'm hoping that I get put in the SG but not going to make that assumption until i have the letter saying so my friend had a medical whereby the nurse said she unfit for work and she was put in the WRAG group.