Mixed age couple ESA

I telephoned the DWP about my Christmas bonus which I never receive and they ended up doing a benefits check and suspended my ESA. I had a single claim for ESA and received Disabilty premiums and carer premiums. They stopped my ESA because my partner is 69 and over state pension age and I am under pension age. He was invited to claim his pension in 2018. We asked the DWP what we needed to do. They said to contact pension service who said he could defer as long as he wanted so he deferred after we took advice and told if he claimed state pension we would be put on universal credit and we didn't want to do this.

The DWP said he should have been claiming his pension. They have stopped £185 per week from benefit despite the fact that even though he has claimed the pension five weeks ago he hasn't received anything and there is no time scale for when this will be processed. The DWP have stopped £185.00 even though the Pension service haven't told him what amount of pension he will receive.

Is this allowed. Can the DWP stop money he isn't receiving yet? They have also stopped carer premium for him. We care for each other they said he cannot have a carer premium as over 69.

We have £100 to live on and cannot afford to live. There is nowhere to get advice as no-one does benefit advice where I live. Everywhere I have asked for help I get totally different answers.

Further to my post. I have found out that £77.70 pw was deducted last year because we are caring for each other. I don't understand why this was stopped as we do care for each other still plus the carer premium of £40 for caring for me. £185 iOS deducted for partners state pension. I cannot understand why I am having notional income removed back to £185 at the time I contacted both ESa and pension service. Esa said to ring pension service pension service said they could defer pension. As for benefits advice there is none. Going to next /another town no good as not in that area so no funding. There is nowhere mp won't help. I even pay £12 per month for a so called VIP benefit advice but they have ignored me. A statement of advice has been received form pension service which is blank with no money showing. Pension service just say they will send an email to the Department. Everyone I ask for advice seems suggest I am a benefit cheat for not drawing someone else's pension. It was precisely for this reason and not getting any money that they didn't. There is no benefit advice and no I don't understand any of it plus I have mental health problems autism and adhd not to mention physical health problems