Please please help advise me, I'm sick with worry

Hi everyone, I only joined this website last night. I am 29 and have been on IB for about 10 years. I was changed over to the new ESA only last december, and put in the WRAG. At the time, I had no idea what this meant, and that there were 2 groups, and I also didn't realise the bit about the benefit only lasting for 12 months if you are in this group. Then on wednesday I get a new letter telling me about the change in amounts throughout the year, and that it will stop altogether in december this year I am married with 2 children under 5, and we are looking at loosing almost £500 per month!!!! We will not be able to pay our mortgage/bills, and I am just sick to my stomach with worry. I wouldn't be entitled to income-related ESA as my husband works full-time (although he is not on a very high salary). I also get DLA low-rate care and high-rate mobility, but obviously this is all up in the air at the moment too.

The benefits office have advised me to write back to DWP and ask for them to re-look at my forms. I had already sent in a letter from my GP, and explained in the forms that I get direct payments and have a carer in to help me and the children 3 times a week. How on earth do they think I can go back to work??? I am concerned that the one month deadline they give you, from when you first get the letter (last november for me), will work against me. The reason I will have to give for not challenging the decision sooner, is I totally did not understand the new benefit.

I am also very confused about the fact that i've had no medical, never ever have! I've also, in the nearly 3 months since i've been on ESA, had no contact from the job centre, no work related interviews, or anything that they mention in the letters. From what i've heard from others, this is not normal???

Please help me, somebody. I'd be so so grateful. Oh I forgot to say that I have M.E, I've had it for 15 yrs, and in that time have been bedbound and housebound, and using a wheelchair. In recent years I have improved a lot, but still need a LOT of help to manage daily living.

Thank you to anyone who replies xxx

Thanks Gordon. I did notice that my full name was displayed!

What do you think about the fact that I've had no medicals or work related interviews etc??? No contact at all!

I was aware that I need to try and get transfered into the support group, it's just how to go about it, and how likely I am to be successful. M.E is such a tricky one on these forms I did the self-test to see if I qualified for SG, and I didn't, so that isn't a good start!!!! But I'm sure that I must be entitled to go into the group, given how poorly I am.....

It's such a frightening prospect to be in a position of having no means to work to gain income, and possibly loosing hundreds of pounds a month that you've relied on for years Shit shit shit! Already the stress has made me iller, and it's only been 2 days...