Aspie daughter's PIP denied

The medical assessment process isn't suitable for anyone. I've been through it myself (I have ME).
I have a new question for moderators: my daughter hates going to see the doctor. In the past she has refused to give me a definite answer in advance of the appointment as to whether she will go or not so that, on the day, she says she doesn't want to go and it's too late to cancel. I don't want her to be removed from the list but, if I don't cancel and then she doesn't want to go, she will accuse me of bullying her. Should I cancel and hope for the best or insist that she goes and risk accusations of bullying? If the mandatory reconsideration is unsuccessful, she can still appeal, but I wanted to spare her this if possible. Also, she is at home now. If it has to go to a tribunal, she will have to come back from uni, possibly during term-time, which will cause her further anxiety.

I asked 'should I cancel her doctor's appointment tomorrow or make her keep it as she is accusing me of bullying her?'

By the time you reply, it will be too late for me to cancel the appointment, so she will have to go. She won't listen to me when I've tried to explain why she needs to go so I'll ask my husband to speak to her tonight. She is more likely to listen to him and is less likely to lose his temper with frustration than I am.

Following on from my reply to you earlier, Gordon, and realising that it hasn't yet appeared as it needs to be moderated, I told my daughter at around 5pm that it was really important that she go to the doctor with me tomorrow to which she replied.'Okay.' I have ME, a daughter with Asperger's and my son was assessed for Asperger's at the age of 8 and told he did not have the full syndrome but has 'traits.' He is now almost 26, living in London, has to be nagged to claim all the benefits he's entitled to, won't check on them when they don't keep him updated and has two weeks to find alternative accommodation after he told his current landlordsix weeks he wants to move out because they'd put up his rent by another £40 a month. I was going to give up alcohol for January; I've just been to the Co-Op and bought a bottle of wine. Sometimes, you just have to have it!

With the greatest respect, I didn't realise it wasn't or I wouldn't have asked.

We have just seen our normally very supportive doctor. He said: 'Letters of support were a waste of time for Mandatory Reconsideration, this is a very busy time of year and you do know we don't have to do this?' I said I knew I would have to pay a fee. He said, 'It won't be done quickly.' I said that was fine, as long as I had it in a week or so. He said, 'It won't be within a week.' I explained that, because the letter the DWP had sent informing her her claim had been denied was sent before Christmas, it had arrived only three weeks before the deadline. I didn't tell him I had given up the appointment I had made for myself as it takes three weeks to get an appointment with him. I could ask for an emergency appointment on the day but my daughter needs to have at least 24 hours prior notice of any appointments. He asked on what grounds I was contesting the decision and started to type. I told him I had spent three days putting together some notes to help him with the letter and I would have to read it to go over all the grounds. He asked me to phone him in a week's time if I hadn't heard from him first.

I told him that I would not have come to see him had I not been advised by Benefits and Work that it would be a good idea.