Hi Nanna and Welcome to the forum, you might want to have a look at the following FAQ which explain where everything is
Welcome to Benefits and Work I'm sorry that you are having such trouble with your health.
All I can suggest is that you have a good look at our ESA guide and see whether you think you might qualify after all.
ESA claims and appeals Other than that, try putting your figures into a site just as 'turn2us' to see if there is anything else you might be eligible for.
www.turn2us.org.uk/