There are growing signs of a DWP push to claim that conditions like ADHD, autism, anxiety and depression are less likely to lead to significant additional costs and, therefore, should be treated differently by the benefits system. In order to challenge this argument, we’d like to hear about the extra costs you face if you live with one of these conditions, or care for someone who does.

Cost-free conditions

Jean-André Prager is a member of the Timms review steering group.  He is also the co-author of a new report for a right-wing think tank calling for up to 70% fewer child DLA awards for mental health, learning difficulties and neurodevelopmental conditions.  This would apply both to new and existing claimants when their award is reviewed.

Prager argues that needs such as tube feeding, oxygen or substantial mobility assistance have readily identifiable costs.  But he claims that “where the principal additional need takes the form of prompting, behavioural management, supervision or motivation, the burden may fall primarily in the form of parental time, vigilance and complexity rather than direct expenditure.”

In other words, mental health, learning difficulties and neurodevelopmental conditions take parental time but are relatively cost free conditions.

Secretary of state, Pat McFadden told MPs in June of this year that he had raised the issue of neurodevelopmental conditions with the Timms review steering group, who are tasked with redesigning PIP: 

“In particular, there has been an increase in conditions like anxiety and depression, neurodiverse conditions and so on. Is this benefit fit for purpose in the way that it is designed, in dealing with that variety of conditions? That is a very interesting question for the reviewers. When I went to speak to them a few months ago in one of their sessions, that is the question I put to them to consider.”

McFadden doesn’t directly call for cash awards to be replaced, but the implication is clearly there.

And in July this year, Timms was asked by Tory MP Joe Robertson whether he accepted that “a system of cash payments to some people with conditions such as attention deficit hyperactivity disorder, where half the claimants are aged between 16 to 24, is not what they need most?”

Timms responded that “The steering group is clear that the provision of cash to meet the additional costs of disability is vital. We will not be moving away from the importance of that, but I think there is a question about whether the process can also point people towards help that may be valuable to them in addition to, or in some cases perhaps instead of, a cash payment.”

The possibility that some people could get help instead of a cash payment for conditions like ADHD is, therefore, one that the Timms review is considering.

DLA for children

Benefits and Work believes that autism, ADHD and mental health conditions result in substantial additional costs when caring for children. These may include:

Transport:  children may need accompanying on journeys when other children of the same age travel independently.

Clothing: frequent replacement because it gets lost or damaged, clothing that meets sensory needs.

Learning and activities:  additional learning support and specialist play schemes.

Sensory aids and adaptations: noise-cancelling headphones, ear protection, suitable lighting or blackout blinds; specialist software.

Food:  cost of wasted food, compulsive eating or the need to eat particular foods.

Household items:  cost of replacement because of breakages or rough handling.

Home education:  the cost of materials, tutors if available and travel associated with home education because your child was bullied or insufficiently supported at school.

Healthcare:  because the assessments or treatment your child needs are not available on the NHS or the wait is impossibly long, you have to pay for them.

Lost income: time off work to provide additional care, including when a child is excluded from school.  DLA is not an income replacement benefit, but this is a major cost for many parents.

PIP for adults

In relation to adults and PIP, some of the costs of these conditions may include:

Transport:  taxis because of difficulty navigating journeys on foot or using public transport. 

Shopping:  the cost of deliveries because you are unable to visit supermarkets or shops.

Food:  ready-prepared meals because difficulty initiating and completing tasks or executive-function issues prevent cooking.

Sensory aids and equipment: as above.

Private assessments and therapies:  especially private sector mental health support, because it may not be available on the NHS.

Utilities:  more heating and electricity because your condition means you seldom leave home. 

Managing money:  problems with managing money lead to late-payment charges and additional borrowing costs.

Help at home:  because of fatigue or difficulty initiating and completing tasks you may have to pay for help around the home - including cleaning and gardening - in order to keep it safe and habitable.

Tell us your experience

We’d like to put together some evidence to challenge the cost-free conditions argument.  So - as a first step - we’d like to hear from readers who live with ADHD, autism, depression or anxiety or who care for someone else, including a child, who does.

What are the extra costs involved?  Can you estimate how much extra you spend on different activities?  Please include things you need but cannot afford, because having no money to spend does not mean having no additional costs.

If you can, give rough weekly, monthly or one-off amounts.

You can leave a comment below or contact us to tell us more.  We may publish extracts from your email responses anonymously, so please leave out identifying details and only include information you are comfortable having published.

 

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    · 15 days ago
    Medication costs,  food delivered to my home from ASDA, therapy, heating because I don't really leave the house, taxis if I do go out 
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    · 15 days ago
    Could someone explain, if they know please from research, and this is not a jibe at anyone ( I have a mid age Daughter with ADHD ) but is there a reason whole families are Neurodivergent ? Is Autism, ADHD genetic/hereditary ?  Anxiety and Depression can be conditions people can get at any time in life with or without the Neurodivergent conditions, still horrific to suffer from and to witness. I hope this doesn't come across wrong in any way, I appreciate all these conditions can be absolutely awful to deal with both for the sufferer and a parent/carer. I also realise I could use Google/AI but would rather not, I think a human researched explanation is always the most informative way to go. The only conditions I really have knowledge about are ADHD, severe Depression and Anxiety and moderate/severe Dyspraxia. Thank you. 
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    · 15 days ago
    I have CPTSD with psychotic features. I can’t get outside at all. Agoraphobia.
    Difficulty comparing energy, broadband, or mobile contracts leads to being rolled onto expensive default standard tariffs.
    Financial Penalty Fees: Severe anxiety or depressive episodes can result in missed payments, triggering bank overdraft fees, credit card late fees, and high-interest penalties.

    My mental illness fundamentally alters daily habits, inflating baseline living costs:
    Higher Energy Bills: Spending long periods at home due to agoraphobia or depression naturally spikes heating and electricity.
    When severe fatigue or low mood makes cooking or grocery shopping impossible, individuals often rely heavily on pre-prepared meals, takeaway food, and home delivery services.
    My severe panic or social anxiety makes taking public buses or trains impossible, forcing my reliance on expensive taxis or private cars to attend appointments. 
    I had to get cleaners in for a deep clean costing over £400 and get all of my carpets, beds and supplies fa cleaned costing over£500. I buy pull ups because I get incontinent. 

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      · 15 days ago
      @Donna My middle age Daughter was only recently privately diagnosed ( not cheap ) with ADHD though we suspected something was wrong since birth, she had a traumatic birth and was premature. My Daughter suffers horrific Anxiety too, seeing her crumble kills me, she often doesn't even know why she is panicking, its just awful to witness. I am wondering if she might also have other mental health conditions, OCD or PTSD I have thought about. ''Severe anxiety or depressive episodes can result in missed payments, triggering bank overdraft fees, credit card late fees, and high-interest penalties.'' this quote from you above is my Daughter to a tee. 

      I really feel for you and anyone else suffering these awful mental health/Neurodivergent conditions. Why the DWP/Government are intent in making them something as simple as having a common cold is beyond me, the whole rhetoric around this is shocking and backward thinking in my humble opinion. I really hope the powers that be don't just steamroller over these life altering conditions. Sending you all my heartfelt best wishes. 
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    · 15 days ago
    My son has lived on adhd and autistic spectrum since age 7. 30 years later costs are more due to increase cost accompanied travel usually with carer and a taxi ( banned by local bus co as couldn't deal with on board bus and people to reacted). He lashes out, is 6ft 6 and 25 stone, not easy to control and keep him self as well as others. Only eats certain foods from certain places. Many a time household items are broken or damaged thru frustration. Has no control button for what is acceptable socially and can't explain everything himself to strangers. Without help of carer and companion that pip goes towards he wouldn't be doing some part time hours work, wouldn't go out, would have no independence,  no contact with anyone, increased mental health issues (already tried to take his life last year). How can they think all the help doesn't cost anything?
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    · 15 days ago
    DLA for a child with  autism pays for private therapy ongoing for severe OCD 
    The waiting list under NHS is too long when a child and family are living with this condition ( which often is a part of autism ).
    It also covers travel costs. 
    Child awarded standard care !!! No mobility   
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    · 15 days ago
    My Daughter is 34.
    She has Autism and a Genetic Condition.
    She can't travel anywhere on her own or plan a journey.
    She needs another person with her..this costs money.
    She has many accidents with clothing( especially during her time of the Month....so need replacing...this costs money.
    She is anxious in large crowds so we have food deliveries...these cost money.
    She goes to a Day centre...paid for by a Direct payment . ..butva contribution is taken from her benefits...which costs money.
    She needs her lunch provided every day...shecis fussy...so certain items are bought thatcI know she'll ear...which can cost more money .
    We have bought items to help her anxiety...stress relief gadgets...she collects many things.....if we didn't have the Motobility Car we wouldn't be able go anywhere.
    The fact she still lives,at home costs money as the house is kept warm for her as she is in the Housexevety evening. 
    If my Husband and I do get a night out...she comes with us...which costs more money than it would for another couple without a Daughter like we have.Shes loved beyond measure....but ii needs taking into account...if the benefits were removed just how hard it would be to carry on as we do.
    I care for her 24/7 apart from when she's at her day centre.I no longer receive Carers allowance as I now get my pension.Other people my age without a,Daughter  like mine get pension too....but the carers allowance has stopped.
    I think the impact on families with children with any kind of disability needs sympathy from the Government and they don't need to  be the easy target to save money.
    I suggest the many people who claim and have 'anxiety'be targeted.
    I believe all Parents of Children with a diagnosis have anxiety...and don't claim anything for themselves...they just crack on caring and looking after their loved ones.

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    · 15 days ago
    I am autistic and have hearing loss too. I am now also physically disabled.

    Autism costs: 

    My executive functioning is appalling. I use my PIP to buy in ready meals from a small local company. Ive been vegan for years and also have dietary issues so ready meals from supermarkets aren't suitable. I wouldn't get PIP just based on dietary needs. But left to myself I just rely on dry crackers and cereal.

    I struggle with public transport because of noise and smell sensitivities. So taxis. I've applied for a free bus pass because I now have some support and may manage the occasional journey- if it's free I can get off whenever it becomes overwhelming without the additional cost of buying a ticket for the next bus. But I qualify for the bus pass because I can't walk far, not because of my autism. I wouldn't be using the bus every day because it's a sensory nightmare. 

    I have to use a decluttering service which social services won't pay for. My executive functioning is so bad that i can't keep my space tidy however much i try. I do still feel ashamed about this but I know it's part of my disability. I'm hoping to get the house to a state where I can then employ a cleaner who can actually reach the bits that need cleaning and do the regular tidying.

    I don't go out much  so yes, being at home costs more in heating. I do try to ration it because i can't afford to have it on all day.

    Replacing items because I've lost them. The most common is device chargers. Eg I have two hoover chargers for the same hoover 🤦‍♀️ or visors, which i need to shield my eyes from lights, and keep losing.

    Help with my garden ( both to pay for a person and for garden stuff). This is my special interest and I get really anxious and depressed if I can't garden (winter is bad) and I need to buy compost, seeds, bedding plants etc. I know that sounds like a luxury but for an autistic person, their special interest/s help regulate the nervous system.

    Heated clothing in the winter and running an air conditioner in the summer because I have a stupidly narrow temperature range that I can tolerate.

    My dog. Because I'm autistic, I struggle with being around other humans. My dog (or I guess any pet) provides me with companionship and sensory regulation. Again, I can see how that would be perceived as a luxury when some working people can't afford a pet. But I don't smoke, drink, go on holiday (Billy no mates with no one to go with, and to be honest I couldn't handle it on my own now, so that's definitely autism-related), go to the cinema (can't hear the films due to hearing loss) so why is asking for some companionship and regulation a luxury?

    I have a support worker now who takes me to the supermarket. But before that, I had to get groceries delivered. So you have delivery fees and you miss out on things like the odd magazine or buying a birthday card.

    I have other costs related to my walking difficulties but I won't list them because that's not the question.

    I'm angry. These policy-makers would rather drive us into poverty than see us having a reasonable standard of living. And they aren't fighting to change society so we can actually fit in, are they? I have an honours degree and a Masters but I've never been able to hold down jobs and make a career in spite of trying for 25+ years. They know that our suicide rates are higher than the average population but they want to strip us of the bare necessities without fixing society so we can work without being made very ill. I think they should be made to live on benefits for a year with the threat of them being removed at any moment, and nowhere to turn. Without resort to their existing financial resources, so not allowed their savings to fall back on for a year. See how they like it.
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    · 15 days ago
    As a parent of two children with severe ADHD I can confirm it is not a cost free disability ...the elder child needed constant supervision and I always felt the middle child missed out on attention from us as parents and paid for extra curricular activities for them. They also went to different secondary  schools deliberately to give the non ADHD child a break. I could only work part-time as I needed to be there when they were home from school ...even then there would be frequent incidents of setting fire to Lego in a plastic bath and climbing on the roof...and tying up their siblings Malcolm in the middle style. 
    As the children grew, they are now adults it got harder to get them to study and then git very bored..thank goodness for Lego and the many hobbies that are also costly ...as are the physical activities to keep them focused,gymnastics, ballet, Kung Fu, sailing canoeing and the endless dog walks...get a dog it will save your life!!

    As adults there has been no let up the sense of justice is still strong and I have lost count of how many jobs they have lost through being honest and hardworking but just that little but difficult to work with every day ...if they had not had pip they would have been homeless...and now this pays for therapy and vitamins that do help on some level...the biggest ones being omega 3, vitamin B and magnesium ...and the need to eat unprocessed foods which are a lot more costly.

    There is a huge cost to any disability even a hidden one 
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    · 15 days ago
    My daughter is autistic, has ADHD, ARFID and significant anxiety, Depression and panic attacks. The suggestion that these conditions are somehow "cost free" is completely at odds with our lived experience.

    The extra costs affect almost every aspect of daily life, and many of them are not immediately obvious to people who do not live with these conditions.

    One of the largest costs is transport. Public transport is simply not a realistic option for her. Buses and trains are often too noisy, crowded and unpredictable. Seats are not guaranteed, journeys can involve long waiting times, and the smells, noise and proximity to other people can be overwhelming. We also live in a rural area where public transport is infrequent and does not run at suitable times for many appointments and activities.

    As a result, we have to maintain a car. This means paying for fuel, vehicle tax, insurance, MOTs, servicing, repairs and parking. The car is essential for attending GP and hospital appointments, collecting medication, accessing services and carrying out everyday activities that would otherwise be inaccessible. These costs add up significantly over the course of a year.

    My daughter cannot safely or confidently go out alone and requires support from another person when attending appointments, travelling or accessing the community. This means there is an additional caring burden whenever she needs to go anywhere.

    Because of her ARFID and sensory difficulties, food is a significant additional cost. She has a limited range of safe foods and cannot simply eat cheaper alternatives, supermarket substitutions or whatever happens to be available. If a manufacturer changes a recipe, packaging, texture or ingredient, a previously accepted food may suddenly become inedible to her, and we have to find alternatives.

    We frequently spend more on specific brands and products because they are the only foods she can reliably eat. Food is also sometimes wasted when sensory changes cause a previously safe food to become intolerable. These costs can be substantial over the course of a year.

    Eating away from home creates further challenges. We cannot rely on cafés, restaurants, venues or events being able to provide food she can safely and comfortably eat. As a result, we often have to bring our own food and drinks whenever we leave home. This requires food storage containers, cool bags, insulated bottles, ice packs and other equipment to transport food safely.

    What many people take for granted as a simple convenience becomes something that requires planning, preparation and additional expense simply to ensure she has access to food she is able to eat.

    Clothing is another significant expense. When we find clothing that she can tolerate, we often need to buy multiple copies of the same item. This ensures that there are enough to last throughout the week, allows items to be washed regularly, and avoids situations where she is forced to wear clothing that causes discomfort or distress due to sensory sensitivities.

    We have also spent a considerable amount on items that help with emotional and sensory regulation. These include noise-cancelling headphones, ear defenders, sensory aids, fidget items, comfort items, weighted blankets, music subscriptions, toys, games and other resources that provide familiarity and comfort.

    These are not luxuries; they are sources of comfort and important tools for emotional and sensory regulation. They provide reassurance and help her regulate her emotions when she is distressed or overwhelmed.

    Finding what works often involves trial and error, meaning many items are purchased but prove unsuitable. Even when we find something that helps, it usually needs replacing over time due to wear and tear from frequent use.

    There are also substantial hidden costs. My daughter needs support with appointments, correspondence, accessing services, managing paperwork and dealing with everyday administration. Much of this support is provided by me without payment.

    Ironically, she struggles to claim the very benefits intended to support disabled people because the application process itself is inaccessible to her. I am also neurodivergent and have my own difficulties managing complex administrative processes. As a result, we struggle to navigate systems that are supposed to provide support, and we have been unable to find anyone who can take on this role for her.

    The time spent providing care, advocacy, supervision and practical support has a real value, even though it goes unpaid and unrecognised. Caring responsibilities also limit the time and opportunities available for work, rest and other family commitments.

    There are also significant costs associated with obtaining support. While some services are available through the NHS, long waiting lists, limited provision and a lack of appropriately tailored services often leave families with little choice but to seek support privately or go without.

    This can include private therapy, counselling, occupational therapy, autism-informed support, ADHD coaching, dietetic support for ARFID, sensory assessments and other specialist interventions. Even when these services are recommended or would clearly be beneficial, they are frequently unaffordable.

    In many cases, the issue is not that the need does not exist, but that the support is financially out of reach. Disabled people and their families are often left having to choose between struggling without support or finding ways to fund assistance that should arguably be more accessible.

    The financial impact therefore extends beyond the costs we currently incur. It also includes the support, therapies and interventions that would improve quality of life but remain inaccessible because of cost.

    The reality is that autism, ADHD, ARFID and anxiety generate many additional costs. Some are financial, some are practical, and some are borne through unpaid caring responsibilities and lost opportunities. They may not always be obvious to people looking from the outside, but they are real, ongoing and substantial. Suggesting that these conditions are "cost free" ignores the reality experienced every day by disabled people and the families who support them.
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    · 15 days ago
    Extra heating as I get very cold very easily from arthritis, hypothyroidism, fibromyalgia . Extra electricity for summer as my Microvascular angina triggers with extreme heat or humidity. SAD lamp uses electric, as does my white noise machine or fans or extra heater. Taxis as can't use public transport due to severe social anxiety. Apps for mood, motivation, movement and mental health support due to Bipolar and ASD. Food takeaway delivery when I just can't cook..severe depression or other. Food deliveries because of social anxiety. Books because I hyper focus on reading. Netflix because I rewatch films for comfort and calming due to ASD. Incontinence pads for obvious reasons, bedding changes and expense of buying certain ones due to sensory issues. Extra food costs due to ARFID ,Celiac, Dairy and Egg Allergies. Yearly Blue badge cost, Passport cost for identification only purpose as no driving licence. Utility bills such as water, rent and home phone (in case of emergencies). Cost of extra laundry detergents and cleaning products due to OCD. Specific and often more expensive clothes,underwear and shoes due to sensory issues. Specific body wash, shampoo, conditioner,body and face moisturiser due to allergies. Puzzle books or colouring books for when I'm struggling to focus or calm. Cleaners, decorators,gardeners etc as can't do own. Home adaptations due to physical needs. Extra electric for daily hoovering due to allergies and hair loss. Specific pillows and duvets. Certain style of mugs,cutlery and plates due to ASD. Pans I can lift. Certain type of Towels due to ASD. 
    The list goes on. 

    What really angers me is the fact we have to justify every penny we spend as disabled people. 
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    · 15 days ago
    I volunteer at Citizens Advice and specialise in PIP. 

    Three major additional costs for clients with mental health issues  are;
    1. Taxis. Many people with mental health conditions are unable to use buses because of uncertainty, overcrowding and exacerbation of their issues. Taxis are the alternative and obviously expensive.
    2. Private access to mental health practitioners/advisers. Many clients want help but it simply isnt available under the NHS [or is very poor] Access to mental health advice is only available privately and thats expensive too. 
    3. The need for help with most paperwork because of anxiety etc. This can also be a cost as "friends" make mistakes and often people with mental health issues need to pay to get that kind of thing done
    I agree there are other costs like food if you cannot go shopping because of mental health issues. To suggest that because your issues are mental rather than physical you do not have additional costs is both stupid and discriminatory. 
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    · 15 days ago
    the cost of private therapy to manage conditions, a specialist buggy, nappies, adapted clothing, replacement of tech and toys for children, loss of earnings for parents who are required for frequent school/medical incidents and appointments, food from specific places/brands to manage sensory related food aversions, activities and/or days out to attend SEN specific sessions to accommodate the child often cost more including the cost of fuel to attend, adaptive car seats or vehicles and shoes and reins to minimise risk of elopement and quite often children and adults with a neurodivergent condition will usually have co morbid conditions impacting other areas of health such as mobility and mental health and physical disabilities which then also come with additional costs to support this. My child requires speech and communication support which comes at an additional cost for therapy, tools and equipment including first and then boards, visual timetables, PECS aswell as extra costs for training for parents to use the devices or tools and for training in makaton or sign language. Specialist feeding equipment to minimise choking risk and to support to use cutlery and to minimise food aversion ie spacer plates with sections , costs of running washing machines due to changing frequently through the day and night. There is a never ending list and suggesting that autism and adhd and mental health conditions makes somebody ineligible for benefits and support is not only discriminatory but also pushing more and more people into poverty. We should NOT be punished for struggling with brains we didn’t choose… 

    It is absolutely absurd for anybody to suggest that being neurodivergent doesn’t accompany any extra costs and absolutely disgusting for anybody who has no lived experience to have any form of opinion on this matter 
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    · 15 days ago
    As a professional, please show me the autistic person who is 'just autistic'. Neurodevelopmental conditions rarely occur on their own and usually co-morbid conditions are present. Any of these will incur extra costs.
    Mental health support, coaching, specialist input from speech & language therapist/occupational therapist, psychologist, psychiatrist, special food, adapted drinking and eating implements, eating disorder support. Supplements that are essential such as vitamin D & B12. Other supplements such as vitamins, pre/probiotics, amino acid, vitamin K, etc. 
    Private doctor for MCAS.
    Medication recommended by NHS but no longer funded by the NHS, so must be bought privately. 
    Personal Assistant support to help with cooking, cleaning, shopping, attending medical appointments. For many PIP is essential to remain in work, especially as Access to Work is so slow in assessments and they are cutting back on many aids & support within Access to Work as well.
    The list goes on. When my clients get PIP they use it to get the care they need & deserve. I know several people who spend in excess of £1000 per month on their own care. The PIP does not even cover all their costs. 
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    · 15 days ago
    My son who I care for has autism and co ordination problems. He is very clumsy and regularly breaks things. I have to buy a new chair for him at least every 6 months, and couple of times after a month! And I buy the heaviest duty chair I can! He is extremely anxious and will only go out by taxi. Looking after him is hard work and expensive! He also has depression and I am paying for counselling.  We couldn't do this without his benefits.
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    · 15 days ago
    A family of 4: me, my husband, our son (5) and daughter (15) we all have Autism and ADHD, depression, anxiety and ptsd. Therapy unavailable on NHS for adults as our cases are too complex we were told, children on waiting lists for last 4 years and gid knows when will they receive help so i gotta fund therapy myself for all. Cost of one 50 minutes session privately for adult is £80, needed at least 2x a month, my daughter needs a more expensive specialist as most of psychotherapist dont do under 16s so cost is £120 and a woman lives in another city, so travel costs here too. £600-800 for just therapy for our family. Taxis for both of my children to and back from school as behavioural issues and anxiety prevent public transport. Taxis for me as noise and moment distract me so much I lose sense of directions and get lost. Cost is between 7 and 16 pounds for each trip. We do 4-10 trips a day. The cost daily minimum is £40. Monthly cost for commuting £800-1200. Each member of family has sensory issues resulting in special dietary and specific type of meals. I am unable to cook "one for all" meal, not to mention I struggle with executive functions so it's great if I do a meal at all. This means ordering food or buying ready meals and they gotta be specific brands. Cost daily minimum £50. Monthly £1500 just for food. My husband and me only can wear natural materials such as cotton, hemp or wool. In comparison regular polyester tracksuits trousers is £15, pure cotton costs £45. Same with jumper. My costs monthly for clothes, linen and other textile based items is £200. Add bills. Just electricity is insanely expensive and my daughter and husband use hoover or hair dryer for sensory calming at least 6h a day. My son and I need to be warm so we sleep on Electric blankets. Cost of just electricity monthly is £200. There is a way more things that our disability costs us but I would be writing all day here - specialists, supplements, 1:1 childcare, cleaner, house help etc. I wont even touch that. But if they think neurodivergency doesn't Cost money I'd argue it actually costs more than physical disability.
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    · 15 days ago
    I get DLA for my children costs are clothing which which often gets ruined as due to sensory needs will not wear an overall for painting. Clotjing has to be loose and not touch in the wrong places, often costs more as bigger sizes and adult clothing, shoes have to be soft which allow free movement. Soft leather barefoot shoes are not cheap. Bedding has to be frequently replaced. Wallpaper is often peeled and needs to be replaced several times a year. Befs get broken and need replacing yearly. Tablets and electronics are used for self regulation need replacing due to being broken or wearing out due to use.
    Computer and xbox both for gaming and coding, seperate Computer for school work and coding course. Maths tuition once a week to keep up with school work.  Buy specific foods and drinks as that's all my child will have, internet high speed subscription to keep up with school work  and for tuition. Lots of schoolwork is online which necessitates a good connection.

    Taxi to some hospital appointments as parking is difficult and causes stress. Pay for an extra adult to accompany us on holiday as cannot support 2 autistic children alone. Also pays for sensory integration occupational therapy and animal therapy, 121 swimming as cannot learn in a group due to sensory needs. 
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    · 15 days ago
    I have CPTSD with psychotic features. I can’t get outside at all. Agoraphobia.
     Difficulty comparing energy, broadband, or mobile contracts leads to being rolled onto expensive default standard tariffs.
    Financial Penalty Fees: Severe anxiety or depressive episodes can result in missed payments, triggering bank overdraft fees, credit card late fees, and high-interest penalties.

    My mental  illness fundamentally alters daily habits, inflating baseline living costs:
    Higher Energy Bills: Spending long periods at home due to agoraphobia or depression naturally spikes heating and electricity.
    When severe fatigue or low mood makes cooking or grocery shopping impossible, individuals often rely heavily on pre-prepared meals, takeaway food, and home delivery services.
    My severe panic or social anxiety makes taking public buses or trains impossible, forcing my reliance on expensive taxis or private cars to attend appointments
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    · 15 days ago
    I have autism which causes major depressive disorder. I also Arthritis and severe dyslexia. When talking about Autism or depression they must understand people can more than one condition which only exacerbates how it affects your life and cost. As I get older I have progressively got worse and struggle to function on a daily basis causing me to have a number of breakdowns, hospiztalions, suicide attempts and been out of work for a long time. I have community mental health team and tried everything they offered to help such as therapy, medication and CPN which did not help so I would say they need to understand some people have proactively tried everything but still can’t function again causing cost. Some examples would be spend weeks in bed, not eating, issues personal hygiene, a dirty house I can’t get on top of which has caused me to fall, contemplating suicide, struggling to leave the house without support, support getting my weekly meds as I have taken overdoses and have someone I trust when something needs done in my house. All this comes at a great cost as I need support with personal hygiene, cleaning and maintenance of my house, heating my house at great cost, money for food as I can’t work, getting medication delivered, transport to appointments, support with running my house eg bills, council tax, filling in forms for benefits. In an ideal world this is not how I want live my life but I have tried everything and the money is key to keep going. I have also noticed recently any award I get is lower time span as they believe class my case can improve greatly and quickly - but that may be for some people but not everyone like me and they should understand this when forms have been filed in which I think was referenced in the recent report on over diagnosis, you feel you are constantly being challenged. So having the issues I have come at great expense and frankly I don’t know what to do if this removed. 
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    · 15 days ago
    My daughter is 32 and has severe Autism. 
    The costs of raising an Autistic child can be extreme. 
    My daughter has broken her 
    Tablet, a television, soiled 4 carpets/linoleum beyond cleaning. She also broke her Ategi shared lives supporter's sofa. She was in incontinence pads until she was 8, but even after that she had frequent accidents, and as she isn't able to talk, she would start her period in her clothing or bedding, which then needed replacement. 
    She would also break ornaments and her Sister's toys. 
    We would sometimes have to leave a place suddenly to go home if she was distressed. 
    She also has a gluten free diet, which helps, but it's expensive. 
    So, no, it's not just a matter of her needing "extra parental input"? as Times says, she needed supervision 24/7, so I couldn't have supervised her more if I tried. 
    My daughter lives in Supported living now, As i am 61, but I'm still expected to do a lot for her. 
    I would love him to spend time with an Autistic child like my daughter, and he would soon recognise the difficulties parents face. 
    It's not as easy as it looks. 
    K. S. 
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    · 15 days ago
    The cost of replacing  sensory toys , or a door that’s been kicked down many times it’s been kicked through .
    Clothes like school uniform that has been repeatedly pulled or chewed in frustration , a bed that has been jumped in and broken again for the third time in 3 months ? 

    Food that has to be re bought as it touched another food item inadvertently in the fridge and now cannot ever be consumed , unless re bought immediately . 
    Day trips that mean a taxi there and a taxi back as the older one is spiralling and needs to get out of the house , and cannot do public transport , 
    Extra petrol as they need collecting from school before the end if the day and you still have to go back for the younger one later on 
    Additional costs are relentless and pop up all the time , and some months you can be chasing yourself and only eating toast twice a day to make sure you have enough food and petrol and still cover the bills , the cost of living is an additional bill that you cannot prepare for , as like petrol one day it’s a certain price two days later the same items have put ££,s on the total . 
    I sleep in my sofa so I can be up and trying to stop episodes escalating , into furniture being broken , we are on our third TV this year , and this is currently a second hand one from family , but because the ADHD symptoms demand more than one thing on at a time ( still waiting for correct meds to sorted ) the tv is an important lifeline , as are the sensory toys , and all the routines we have to follow . How do I replace/ make safe out home on just my income ? The DLA covers a little but not the additional exspenses , so withdrawing that and what happens to Families with Neurodivergency , we live from moment to moment as it is , no one can understand this Life until they have been in our shoes . 
    Take money away from people who are not entitled to it , don’t go after Families already existing by one nerve , and trying so hard to provide Care Love and Stability  in an extremely difficult environment .
    Money can be saved in other areas , ADHD Diagnosis, involves a series of tests , which measure the Brain Patterns , they cannot be faked , Autism follows and even more stringent series , of examinations , that cannot be faked , Alcoholism is a disease that can be cured , there are people claiming PIp that have that disease , ADHD and Autism cannot be cured , they are lifelong conditions , and in a majority of cases are even extremely difficult to contain and mange , cut welfare bill by taking from Fakers , not people who have mobility or Care issues , who cannot be left to fend for themselves . Get the priorities right , no one wakes up and decides to have ADHD or Autism , but you can wake up and decide to turn to Alcohol.